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Monday, July 5, 2010

Book : Difficult Daughters


Read 'difficult daughter ' by manju kapoor. a catchy title really; may be the alliteration or just the contrast between the two words; after all daughters are supposed to be sweet , not difficult in any case. Yeah, when they are difficult, they can be very difficult.


This is not really a book review, but just an account of the impression the book created on this reader.

The theme of the story is 'education' vs 'marriage' ; wife as a 'companion' vs 'housekeeper' ; husband as a 'companion' vs ; 'provider'. One gets an impression that marriage constitutes slavery for women and that freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage.

today education and marriage are definitely not mutually exclusive options for a woman, though choosing between career(not a job) and housekeeping (or home making) is still a difficult choice to make.

There is a lot of talk about emancipation of women. It is not the feminists, it is not education , it is not inheritance laws, not even the economic independence that has liberated women. If there is one invention that has made a major contribution to liberating women , it is the pill. As long as their most productive years were spent on reproduction and childrearing, where was the time and energy for anything else? Liberation from kitchen , to a great extent has been brought about by gas stove, pressure cooker, microwave oven and the refrigerator. With years saved by the pill and hours saved by the modern gadgets, there is so much more time to think about "emancipation". (Of course, you can save the entire lifetime for yourself by avoiding marriage altogether)

Now, the question is, what after education, career and economic independence ? will it pave the way for healthy interdependence, synergy and harmony at home ???!! or are we heading for more discords, disharmony and dissonance ?

3 comments:

Anu M said...

You seem to be reading a lot!

I read Manju Kapur's Home, should try Difficult daughters

colmurali said...

when u are alone you get a lot of free time ...and hoshangabad is a quiet place ...

ani said...

The book seems to be too heavy for me.But I should give a try to lift it.